By Gary A.
Edited by Brian M.
Published Mar 26, 2022
Edited on Dec 18, 2024
When deciding between an anniversary band and a wedding band, itâs important to understand how each symbolizes a different aspect of love and commitment, making your choice even more meaningful.
Before we dive deeper into the specifics, here are some practical tips to help guide your decision-making process:
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Wedding bands are traditionally simple, symbolizing pure commitment exchanged during the wedding ceremony, while anniversary bands, often diamond-studded, celebrate significant milestones and enduring love in a marriage.
Engagement, wedding, anniversary â thatâs the way itâs always gone. We can try to come up with a pneumonic to help you remember it, but it probably wonât be as memorable as the real thing. Eels Watch Anacondas? Engagement, wedding, anniversary.
But, if youâre here, then thereâs a good chance youâre not struggling with the order these eventsâ corresponding rings are purchased, but what the actual, fundamental difference between one band and the other is.
The engagement ring is easy enough to distinguish, thanks to that great big rock sitting front and center on it. Itâs pretty hard to miss, or confuse with any other piece of jewelry you have (or will) ever purchase. At least, thatâs the idea.
But what about the other two? How do you keep them different â not to mention special â enough to mark and celebrate each moment to the fullest? Hereâs what you need to know.
A wedding band is traditionally plain, whereas an anniversary band (also commonly referred to as an eternity band) often features a row of pavé or channel set diamonds.
The obvious differences are that a wedding band is given during the wedding ceremony, as a symbol of your eternal bond and commitment to one another, while the anniversary band comes later â sometimes a lot later.
An anniversary band can be given for any anniversary, but theyâre most commonly saved for the big milestones: 1 year, 5 years, 10 years, 25 years, or even 50 years. For some couples, theyâre given after the birth of their first child â although, in this case, theyâre more commonly referred to as an eternity ring.
Another major difference is location. Wedding and anniversary bands arenât vying for the same real estate on your partnerâs left ring finger, since there are no rules (read: traditions) about where the anniversary band goes.
An anniversary band holds a totally different meaning to a wedding band, and canât replace the meaning and sentimental value.
In fact, a lot of people choose to wear their anniversary band on the opposite hand. Itâs more comfortable, and it creates a better sense of balance between the left hand and the right. After all, why wear all your diamonds on one hand when you can spread them between both?
Donât see the anniversary band as something thatâs competing with other pieces of bridal jewelry. It marks a big milestone â one that echoes the meaning of the wedding band, but in a totally different, life-affirming way.
This is to celebrate your marriage, and the time that has passed between the âI doâ and right now. Itâs another beautiful token of your love and commitment â and who can argue with that?
One of the great things about the anniversary ring is thereâs no specific time you have to give it to your partner. It makes for a great, landmark gift during a special year of your lives, whether you wait until a birthday or Valentineâs Day to give it, or put it on their finger on the exact date of your wedding.
There are no rules, just guidelines, for the anniversary ring.
The anniversary band doesnât have to go on the left hand ring finger, although some people do choose to wear it there.
It all depends on what you find comfortable, and what you find beautiful. If youâve got a thick engagement ring band (as well as a wedding band), then fitting another ring onto the stack will probably prove pretty uncomfortable.
Anniversary bands can go on the left or right hand, and on any finger thatâs comfortable. True, theyâre part of a set, but thatâs not to say there are any rules governing placement.
The process of picking both the wedding and anniversary band is slightly different. Choosing a wedding band is typically done together. Most wedding bands are made from plain, solid gold or platinum. Sometimes, partners choose to pick out matching rings, although itâs becoming increasingly common for brides and grooms to pick out rings that suit their own, personal styles, rather than trying to coordinate.
This often comes down to your individual tastes, but also practicalities. For brides with larger, bulkier engagement rings, it may be necessary to design the wedding band around the engagement ring. For instance, some wedding bands are better for halo settings, while others will rub and clash uncomfortably.
Some wedding bands will feature one or two small embellishments, like a flush set diamond, a subtle feature in the metalwork like milgrain, or an engraving (usually located on the inside of the band, so that it sits close to the skin).
After the I Dos, the traditional way to wear the wedding ring is at the base of the left ring finger. A lot of brides move the engagement ring to the right hand for the wedding ceremony, then move it back to the ring finger once the wedding band is there, so that theyâre stacked.
Since theyâre often given as surprise gifts, anniversary bands are usually chosen without the wearerâs input. For this reason, we always recommend that you go back to the same jeweler you purchased your engagement ring from, since youâll already have that rapport and trust that will help you work together on the perfect design.
To distinguish an anniversary band from a wedding band, itâs customary for them to feature diamonds (or a combination of diamond and other colored gemstones, like sapphire or emerald).
Youâll want to consider a pavé setting, or a half-pavé (which will cover just the top half of the band). If youâre interested in incorporating a different cut of diamond (other than the Round Brilliant) into the design, then talk to your jeweler about channel settings instead.
The baguette cut, for instance, offers a great alternative â particularly if the rest of your bridal set has a vintage, Art Deco vibe to it.
Unless your partner has an intentionally varied jewelry collection, stick to the same metal that the engagement ring and wedding band are made from. If itâs gold, try to stick to the same karat type, or youâll end up with varying shades of yellow or pink.
After youâve picked an anniversary ring, you need to finish the emotional journey by giving it to your SO during a meaningful moment. This could be an intimate restaurant, a vacation, a hike to your favorite spot, or even just your home, when the celebrations are already underway.
There are no big, symbolic traditions for the anniversary band. While an engagement ring has the classic down-on-one-knee moment, and the wedding band has an entire ceremony built around it, the anniversary ring is a little more open to interpretation.
Obviously, you want it to be special. Itâs not common for the giver to go down on one knee over an anniversary ring, so consider planning something totally different. Wrap it up and pretend like itâs a normal gift, or put it on their finger when theyâre least expecting it. Put on your wedding video and, while youâre reliving the memories, bring it out.
Alternatively, if youâre planning on renewing your wedding vows, you could give it to your partner then.
There are hundreds of different ways to give an anniversary ring, so enjoy the challenge of thinking up something memorable.
Sixty years of marriage marks the diamond wedding anniversary, when diamonds are the customary gift.
Itâs a great tradition, but thereâs no rule stating you have to hold-off on getting an anniversary ring until then. Diamond earrings, or a diamond necklace or bracelets, are all popular choices for a sixtieth wedding anniversary, whereas the anniversary band tends to arrive on the scene a lot sooner.
Why? Because itâs considered part of the bridal set â the three rings that, together, represent every aspect of your relationship and commitment to one another.
Thereâs a big difference between a wedding band and an anniversary band. Put simply, the anniversary band is intended to celebrate what the wedding band represents â a long-lasting and happy marriage.
From when they are given to how they are worn â and, even, what they look like â the wedding band and the anniversary band are as different from each other as they are from the engagement ring.
While you probably picked out (or are planning on picking out) your wedding bands together, thereâs a good chance the weight of finding the perfect anniversary band has fallen on your shoulders alone. Our best advice for nailing it? Do your research, and donât let your partnerâs tastes slip out of view.
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